Today is my birthday and I couldn’t think of a better gift to myself than to return to blogging at TenderLovingEldercare.com. Thank you again for all of your messages, cards, emails and letters of condolence and support over the last six weeks. My family and I deeply appreciate them!
Am I an Orphan?
Since my mom died in May a few people have remarked that I am now an “orphan.” I probably never would have thought about myself this way if they hadn’t mentioned it to me.
Per the Merriam-Webster.com dictionary definition of an orphan, I suppose I am one:a child deprived by death of one or usually both parents. Even though I am definitely not a child, I was always a child in my parents’ eyes, no matter how old I was. So, technically, I could be considered an orphan, since both of my parents have died.
The Most Famous Orphan in Pop Culture
As I ruminated further on this idea, who should pop into my head?
Little Orphan Annie!
In case you live on the other side of the world, and aren’t familiar with her, here is a YouTube video from the 1982 movie musical “Annie,” so you can get acquainted:
[If you have trouble viewing this video, click here.]
First off the bat, in no way do I resemble her, in this classic portrayal! I do not have red, curly hair. I am not a little girl. And while I do love to dance, I definitely can’t sing!! (My husband says the only Singer in our house is a sewing machine! LOL)
But there are some similarities between Annie and me: I am short , my middle name is spelled A-n-n-e (OK, it’s not pronounced Annie but it’s close) and I do my darnedest to keep a positive mental attitude under all circumstances.
Here are the lyrics for “Tomorrow” written by Martin Charnin (music by Charles Strouse):
The sun’ll come out
Bet your bottom dollar
There’ll be sun!
Just thinkin’ about
Clears away the cobwebs,
And the sorrow
‘Til there’s none!
When I’m stuck with a day
I just stick out my chin
The sun’ll come out
So ya gotta hang on
Come what may
I love ya Tomorrow!
As I listened to the song and then read the lyrics, not only do the words resonate with me on a personal level, but all caregivers, family or professional, could use these words as a caregiving “anthem.” While acknowledging the difficulty of the day, the song gives us hope that tomorrow will be a better day, and that we “gotta hang on!” Can’t every caregiver relate to these basic feelings?
My Questions for You
What do you think of this song becoming the Caregivers Anthem? Is there another song that helps you get through a tough day of caregiving?
If both of your parents have died, do you think of yourself as an orphan?
Please share your thoughts below.
Now it’s off for some birthday fun and cheer with family and friends . . .
Stay tuned to TLeC for another interview with a family caregiver coming soon!
And last but not least, it feels great to be back!