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  1. Interesting interview and very inspiring. Thank you.

  2. Hi Linda,
    Thanks for taking this kind of leadership in eldercare education!
    I must admit, it was tough for me to answer some of your thoughtful questions — because it’s so personal — but I hope this post and part two stir your readers to take time to read your 4-part Caregivers Communication Class and learn more about giving tender loving care to parents and seniors.

    Hi Vered,
    Thanks! Linda’s questions really coaxed a lot out of me.

  3. My grandfather died of Alzheimer’s; it’s very difficult to watch someone you love deteriorating before your eyes. I’ve been reading a lot about how to keep your mind active even well into old age. There is something called the Nun Study where a groups of nuns have been studied for years. When they die their brains are dissected (almost all of them consented to allow this after their death); scientists have discovered that a lot of them had Alzheimer’s when they died, but they had not exhibited the signs of Alzheimer’s. Researchers think this is due to several factors including keeping mentally active, having strong social bonds with others, and a positive attitude toward life.

  4. Hi Vered — You’re welcome and thank you for reading and commenting. Lori’s story is inspirational.

    Hi Marelisa — Wow — I’ve never heard of this study, so I’ll have to research it. I’m sorry about your Grandfather — I feel your pain. Just got back from my Mom’s and some visits are just gut wrenching. Thanks for visiting TLeC and hope you’ll be back!

    To SpaceAgeSage aka Lori — Thank you for taking time out to reply to my readers and, one more time, for allowing me to interview you!

  5. Hi Linda and Lori. Thank you for sharing this. I read Lori’s blog regularly and agree that she writes from the heart. It is difficult to watch your elders age when you care about them so much. I went through that with my grandmother who passed away ages ago. That is a lovely picture of your mother.

  6. Hi Marelisa,
    Sorry to read about your grandfather. It’s an illness strips the heart bare.
    Yes, I’ve heard of the Nun Study, but my mom refuses to do any of those things. She fears socializing outside the family because of extreme self doubts. She may be more fragile emotionally these days, but she’s also still amazingly strong-willed and stubborn about what she doesn’t want to do!

    Hi Linda,
    My pleasure! Thanks for the interview.

    Hi Davina,
    Thanks for reading my blog — and for making the wonderful comments you leave!
    It sounds like your grandmother had lots of love from you before she passed away.
    About the photo – Thanks — I always thought that my mom’s high cheekbones gave her classic look.

  7. Hi Davina,

    I think Lori’s mom looks like a movie star — she reminds me of Donna Reed from the TV show “Father Knows Best.” (I’m dating myself here!) Your grandmother was lucky to have you as her granddaughter — your love for her shines through your words.

  8. What an amazing story of love you are sharing. I am so sorry to see anyone have to deal with this difficult part of life, but it sounds like you are doing a phenomenal job as both a caregiver and a daughter. And I have to agree-Mom definitely looks like a movie star in that picture! I will be sure to take a peak at http://www.spaceagesaga.com as well! Thanks for sharing such detailed information on the ups and downs of daily life!

    Jill

  9. Great post, Lori. And thanks, Linda, for inviting Lori to share her experiences. Both my parents are still healthy, but my brothers and I are starting to notice a deterioration in my mother’s memory, and her ability to retain information.

    This comment is interesting: My mom comes from a family culture where you endured silently any aches, pains, or misfortune. My father definitely does the British stiff upper lip thing. He had a very bad fall in 2001 and shattered his hip. You can tell he is in chronic pain, but he refuses to use a cane to take the pressure off, or admit that he hurts in anyway. But it’s written all over his face and in his body language by the end of the day.

  10. Hi Urban Panther,
    Thanks, and I’m glad your parents are still healthy!

    About the “stiff upper lip” mentality: I’m so trying to chuck it out of my life. I know I’m tough (EMT, former firefighter, 3rd degree black belt), but I’m starting to value graciousness and the ability to say, “Why, thank you!” to anyone who offers me a hand.

  11. Hi Urban Panther,

    It seems like you are well aware of your parents’ health, physically and mentally. That’s the first step — awarenss of what’s “normal” for them and then any changes that start to occur. They are lucky to have devoted children.

    Welcome to TLeC, although I think you may have commented here before. I know I’ve visited your Lair, so maybe that’s what I’m thinking of. In any case, welcome!

  12. Hi Jill,

    Your comment was “lost” in my spam filter until this morning, hence the delay in my reply to your comment. Sorry.

    Lori’s story is really something! Being a caregiver is a roller coaster ride for sure — whether you’re a caregiver for aging parents, for a contemporary with an illness, or for a child born prematurely. Caregiving comes in many shapes & sizes.

    Welcome to the TLeC community!

  13. Hi Jill,
    Thanks for the kind comments. As Linda writes, it’s a roller coaster existence mentally and emotionally. My husband and I realized last night that we will have to start helping my mom with her before-bed routine, too. It’s always something!

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