How to Handle the Guilt of Caregiving — Part 1
One of my support group members recently asked me, “How do I get over the guilt?”
A few months ago she moved her husband to a board and care facility because she could no longer care for him by herself at home. Intellectually she knows it is the best thing for both of them, but the guilt gnaws at her.
Even though my parents died over two years ago, I still find myself thinking thoughts such as, “I wish I hadn’t listened to So-and-So about that particular decision and followed my gut instincts instead.”
The guilt hits me from time to time —
- Why didn’t I make different (better?) decisions.
- I wish I could have made their final years more pleasant.
- I wish I had a magic wand and could have reversed their aging with a wave of my wand.
If I only had the power to do so!
Guilt is an inherent part of caregiving. What guilty thoughts do you deal with? And what do you do when it rears its ugly head?
I’d like to read your thoughts in the Comments below and I will share in a new post what I did (and still do) to combat guilt feelings. Thank you for contributing to this discussion.
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