16 Responses to “A Lesson on Positive Thinking for Pessimistic Aging Parents”

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  1. I really wish those six reasons were expounded on and honored by our society!

  2. great sage advice by a very smart rabbi. The fourtth gift – i have to come to that conclusion 50 years earlier than the rabbi 🙂

    amit
    http://www.OurParents.com

  3. This would definitely be a good article for some elderly people i know to read

  4. Hi Lori,

    I agree — they really apply for people of all ages, not just seniors!

  5. Hi Amit,

    Welcome to TLeC! From what you say, you are a fast learner. 🙂

    Hi Josten,

    Welcome also to TLeC! I hope you *will* share this article with some Golden Oldies in your world. Thanks.

  6. I am so glad you shared words here. I love this Rabbi’s advice.

    Mary

  7. Hi Mary,

    Thank you for the vote of confidence on my post.

  8. Nikki

    I’m 48 and it did ME good to read it. I’m thinking of getting an early start on all those pros to aging, especially #4.

  9. Hi Nikki,

    Welcome to TLeC! I recently heard an adage that goes with #4 above. It’s this: “There’s a reason human beings have two ears and one mouth.” Enough said, errrrr, I mean written. 🙂

  10. In my mid-forties, I already recognize all of those seven benefits of aging. Although I admittedly still struggle with some of the concepts from time to time. If we all started working on really living them now, by 90 we’d have them down pat! 🙂

    My mother was forced to really start incorporating all 7 of those concepts into her life in her sixties when a congental heart condition was diagnosed. Under stress, her heart goes all wonky, so she had to really learn to let go and just be. A recent serious illness, in which we honestly thought we were going to lose her, also brought a significant appreciation of life to outlook.

    Very inspiring post for any age. Thanks!

  11. Linda, I wish that I could get my father to read this. He would first think that I was insulting him and next would say that he was better than the good Rabi in many respects and would go off into a rant.

    I understand that it is difficult for him with his hearing almost gone and my having to shout. I suppose that when I shout my body language conveys anger or something negative, and he always believes that I am constantly angry, when in fact I am not.

    At that age, 92, his opinions have been ingrained for a long time and with all the resentments of having to be obliged to me after so many years of being indedpendent, must be galling for him. I cannot visualize being able to ask him to tell me about positive things. He would simply say that he has always been positive and it is the world that is not.

  12. Dear Eliza,

    Welcome to TLeC with your new moniker. 😉

    You are both wise and fortunate to have a head start on thinking positive as we age. I’m sorry your mom had medical reasons to “let go” and appreciate life, but perhaps it will help her quality of life in the long run.

    Dear rummuser,

    Ach! I know elders like your father, too. You just want to shake them and say “Don’t you get it?!” Maybe he will come around, but I definitely don’t want you to insult him by having him read this post. LOL

    My aunt lost all of her hearing, and we wound up writing in a notebook to her. Yes, it was a pain in the butt and time consuming, but it worked! Could you try that with your father — it may take away those nonverbal cues he seems to be reading into your communication with him. You can use an erasable white board if you wish. The advantage of a notebook is that you then have a permanent record of yes, some mundane things, but also some treasured conversations that you wouldn’t have recorded otherwise. Just a suggestion . . .

  13. He will be more insulted! All that he needs to do is to wear the very expensive set of hearing aids that he keeps safely hidden away!

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